the truth is no words

Plagurized fromn here:

To outsiders, INTJs may appear to project an aura of "definiteness", of self-confidence. This self-confidence, sometimes mistaken for simple arrogance by the less decisive, is actually of a very specific rather than a general nature; its source lies in the specialized knowledge systems that most INTJs start building at an early age. When it comes to their own areas of expertise — and INTJs can have several — they will be able to tell you almost immediately whether or not they can help you, and if so, how. INTJs know what they know, and perhaps still more importantly, they know what they don't know.
INTJs are perfectionists, with a seemingly endless capacity for improving upon anything that takes their interest. What prevents them from becoming chronically bogged down in this pursuit of perfection is the pragmatism so characteristic of the type: INTJs apply (often ruthlessly) the criterion "Does it work?" to everything from their own research efforts to the prevailing social norms. This in turn produces an unusual independence of mind, freeing the INTJ from the constraints of authority, convention, or sentiment for its own sake.

INTJs are known as the "Systems Builders" of the types, perhaps in part because they possess the unusual trait combination of imagination and reliability. Whatever system an INTJ happens to be working on is for them the equivalent of a moral cause to an INFJ; both perfectionism and disregard for authority may come into play, as INTJs can be unsparing of both themselves and the others on the project. Anyone considered to be "slacking," including superiors, will lose their respect — and will generally be made aware of this; INTJs have also been known to take it upon themselves to implement critical decisions without consulting their supervisors or co-workers. On the other hand, they do tend to be scrupulous and even-handed about recognizing the individual contributions that have gone into a project, and have a gift for seizing opportunities which others might not even notice.

In the broadest terms, what INTJs "do" tends to be what they "know". Typical INTJ career choices are in the sciences and engineering, but they can be found wherever a combination of intellect and incisiveness are required (e.g., law, some areas of academia). INTJs can rise to management positions when they are willing to invest time in marketing their abilities as well as enhancing them, and (whether for the sake of ambition or the desire for privacy) many also find it useful to learn to simulate some degree of surface conformism in order to mask their inherent unconventionality.

Personal relationships, particularly romantic ones, can be the INTJ's Achilles heel. While they are capable of caring deeply for others (usually a select few), and are willing to spend a great deal of time and effort on a relationship, the knowledge and self-confidence that make them so successful in other areas can suddenly abandon or mislead them in interpersonal situations.

This happens in part because many INTJs do not readily grasp the social rituals; for instance, they tend to have little patience and less understanding of such things as small talk and flirtation (which most types consider half the fun of a relationship). To complicate matters, INTJs are usually extremely private people, and can often be naturally impassive as well, which makes them easy to misread and misunderstand. Perhaps the most fundamental problem, however, is that INTJs really want people to make sense. This sometimes results in a peculiar naivete', paralleling that of many Fs — only instead of expecting inexhaustible affection and empathy from a romantic relationship, the INTJ will expect inexhaustible reasonability and directness.

Probably the strongest INTJ assets in the interpersonal area are their intuitive abilities and their willingness to "work at" a relationship. Although as Ts they do not always have the kind of natural empathy that many Fs do, the Intuitive function can often act as a good substitute by synthesizing the probable meanings behind such things as tone of voice, turn of phrase, and facial expression. This ability can then be honed and directed by consistent, repeated efforts to understand and support those they care about, and those relationships which ultimately do become established with an INTJ tend to be characterized by their robustness, stability, and good communications.

Take it.


audit in progress


I am now taking quizzes on my compatability with fictional characters. This is my life. Welcome.

With Which Harry Potter Male Are You Most Sexually Compatible?

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So I had my first day volunteering at the humane society. I almost took thirteen animals with me. My new best friend is a little Jack Russel Terrier/Pointer mutt. Then there were kittens the size of my fist. I didn’t get to squeeze them because people were around. Then this huge mastiff tried to eat me. It should be fun. The other volunteers look fairly normal. Including one crunchy nerdy guy who I attempted to flirt with. And by flirt I mean ignored and hid behind my hair. Nevermind my volunteer supervisor is named “Kitty”. Should I tell people there my name is Fido? Soon, I will show up in public wearing shirts like this one:

did you hear me ask for your advice?


Hmmm, what would make this Monday morning a bit brighter? Maybe…Colin Firth covered in something? Oh, well, looky here. part of the new Make Trade Fair campaign.

More than 3,000 joyful holiday shoppers were forced to flee the Toys 'R' Us store in Times Square yesterday when some people suddenly were blinded by tears and started gasping for air. "Stalwart shoppers waited patiently outside until the doors reopened 30 minutes later to business as usual." Yea, must get the new Tokyo-a-go-go BRATZ doll.

Higher ed news: Columbia is at risk of becoming a poison Ivy, some critics claim, and tensions are high.

No good new releases tomorrow, unless the first season of Tru Calling gets you off. Didn't think so.

So that home stretch is here…only a couple of weeks before Xmas break. Yea, I said it. It's Christmas break, not holiday break, not winter break. We know we get off work so all the gentiles can give each other worthless gifts and hit the sales on December 26. Anyway, tons to do before the break, like write all my staff evaluations, investigate vandalism in my halls, plan Spring RA training, and reconcile my multi-thousand dollar budget advance. No problem!

falling back to earth

It's a Hit = It's a fucking great song.

OMG kick-ass: Blonde Redhead's Misery is a Butterfly. It will change your life.

Just watched Barcelona, thus I have completed the Whit Stillman trilogy which includes The Last Days of Disco, and Metropolitan (by far the best–I believe it is only out on VHS). Another director/writer who restores my faith in movie-making. His movies are filled with overly verbose rich yuppies complaining about their troubled lives, but it is damn good. I would call it a comedic version of Bret Easton Ellis novels.

I am taking my job as messenger of irrelevant news very seriously today.

You know how I object to using the word "whore", but this time I'll make an exception, because this ep of South Park sounds phenomenal: [from Page Six]

November 24, 2004 — DOES the madness never end? Barbara Walters has decided to interview Paris Hilton (above) as "One of the Ten Most Fascinating People of 2004." The interview took place at the Hotel Gansevoort Tuesday afternoon and Hilton arrived "dressed like Jackie O," said our spy. In other Hilton news, the high-stepping heiress causes "a stir" in an upcoming "South Park" episode "when her new video playset becomes the hot item with the fourth-grade girls at South Park Elementary. Proving she's the best at her craft, this blond celebrity comes to South Park to compete in a 'Whore-Off,' to the delight of her young fans," a rep for Comedy Central said.

Jenny Lewis of Rilo Kiley is pulling a Beyonce. Let's try to calm that ego, shall we?

"Four days after we got back [from touring], I made this record in six days with [producer] Mike Mogis," Lewis tells "It's a kind of soul record. I'm really excited about it." According to a Team Love spokesperson, the set will likely arrive in the summer of 2005, as the fifth or sixth release on the imprint.Until then, Lewis and Rilo Kiley have plenty on their plate. "We're going to Europe with Bright Eyes in February, and I think to Japan with them as well," she says. "We'll come back and do another tour — we're playing Coachella and Bonnaroo."

"Then, hopefully my record will come out and I'll tour with that before the year is over," Lewis continues. "It's a lot but it's good. I get a little antsy when I have too much time off."

Atomic books now has a blog.

Feel free to jack into my ipod.

I know their clothes are sweatshop free, but American Apparel is just a gimmick. Hipsters, you are being duped by the marketing.

Suckas: Police are investigating an informal exorcism at the Cathedral of St. Paul, which was directed at gay Roman Catholics and will cost thousands of dollars to clean up, police and church officials said.

They said the ritualistic sprinkling of blessed oil and salt around the church and in donation boxes earlier this month amounted to costly vandalism and possibly a hate crime.

supafly slick dick

OK, I've crossed that line. I will now post pictures of cute animals here. This one that Brandon took at a pet store is too good to miss. Evil demon puppies = always cute.

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Spent most of last night and this morning downloading crap. Managed to get My Chemical Romance, Destiny's Child, Nas, Eminem, The Beach Soundtrack, The Fucking Champs, and the Black Eyed Peas. Basically stuff I didn't want to admit that I wanted. Oh, and the icing on the cake was I got the new Lindsay Lohan weeks before it is released. Jealous, Andrew?

since we last spoke

Totally loving my vacation. Don't ever want to go back to work. I guess they would make me move out of my apartment, huh? Started reading The Age of Consent by some fuckwad traditonalist. I want to hurl it across the room, but I feel like doing some spying on the right if I want to combat them properly. Basically the argument is that popular culture has decayed the morals of society because before the 1950s, the basis for guidance was family and religion. Of course, civil liberties, feminists, and homosexuals turned society into a raging, diseased, hedonist, moral currupt playground. Duh, of course! The age of consent refers to the fact that now what is considered moral is what we decide to do for ourselves. It's called FREE WILL, asshole. Look into it. Of course, life would be so much better if we had the patriarchy and Jesus contolling it. Like the creation of Planned Parenthood was a cause of unwanted pregnancies, as opposed to a response. ARRRGGGHHHHH!

Also watched Bully again. One of my favorites. Because it is so disturbing. Is the graphic stuff shocking because it is graphic or because it is realistic? I really want to look into reading more on the real case it was based on. And let it be announced my worship of Larry Clark will commence toute suite. Some may dub Lar as a total perv who likes to film naked teenagers, but I call him genius. I really want to start checking out his photography as well. I can't wait for Ken Park to be released.

Gwen Stefani's new solo album totally blows. I'm just sayin'. Also sucking? The new Jimmy Eat World.

This is Charleze Theron as Aeon Flux? I call bullshit! Where's the pointy hair? The thigh high boots?

First, the film version of Rent will be directed by Chris "Home Alone" Columbus. Now, it will be filmed entitely in San Francisco. Well, how NYC bohemian of them. Now all the losers who have seen it on stage 50 times can go to the movies 50 more times. You know a show is going to shit when Nick Lachey's brother and an American Idol reject are in the cast.

a favor in the house atlantic

If you want to cry your eyes out: Dar Williams, Iowa. [shout out to Andi, Oliver, Lisette, and Gabs.]

Because the Onion now only allows its subscribers access to the archives (hissss), I need to reprint this whole article, because it rings true to me and many of you, I’m sure:

.Wild, Unattached Twenties Spent At Work
SEATTLE—The unattached, freewheeling, consequence-free years following Frank Anderton’s graduation from college are being spent in “one of the coolest offices in all of Seattle,” the 24-year-old reported Tuesday.”Man, it’s the greatest feeling in the world, knowing that I could do anything right now,” Anderton said, sitting at his desk at 8:30 p.m. Friday. “I don’t have any kids to worry about or a mortgage to pay. If I wanted to pick up and backpack through Europe, I could leave in two weeks, no questions asked. Of course, that would set me back a little, career-wise.”

Anderton was hired directly out of college by Walsh & Billings, a high-profile Seattle advertising firm, where he has worked more than 60 hours per week for the past 68 weeks.

“The world is my oyster,” said Anderton, who has been single but not actively dating for all of his post-college life. “Not to brag, but I’m doing pretty well. I’ve got a great apartment all to myself, I’m in good shape, and I’ve been dressing a lot better. When my sister visited me last month, she told me I was shaping up to be quite a catch.”

Anderton explained that the burdens of close personal relationships do not tie him down.
“Nobody tells me what to do or when to do it—other than my bosses, of course,” said Anderton, who recently cancelled his Netflix subscription after letting his first three DVDs sit on his dining-room table unwatched for nine weeks. “The other junior account execs are always complaining about their kids and their wives. Not me. I’m completely free to stay at work as long as I want. Hell, I can even come in weekends without someone getting on my case, like Mom always used to with Dad.”

Even though he’s only two years out of college, Anderton has already had the opportunity to work as an assistant print supervisor on such high-profile accounts as Compaq and Canon. His willingness to work long hours, even on weekends and holidays, has not gone unnoticed by his superiors at work.

“He’s a real go-getter, that’s for sure,” said Tim Bradley, the senior brand strategist on the Canon account. “When I was his age, I was totally lost. I was working dead-end jobs and blowing paycheck after paycheck on partying. It wasn’t until I was pushing 30 that I got my act together and started climbing the ladder. It’s cool that Frank’s got his eyes set on a corner office at 24.”

Anderton, who majored in communications at the University Of Washington, has already received a 5 percent raise at work.

“I used to have to think about every concert ticket or restaurant meal I bought, but now that I have a salary, I can do whatever I want,” said Anderton, who puts nearly all of his $500 entertainment budget into savings each month. “If I don’t have time to cook, which I never do, I just order Chinese. I got an awesome flat-screen TV for my bedroom, so a lot of times I just sit on my bed or at my desk and eat while I watch television.”

Anderton’s 32-year-old brother Josh, who recently became a regional sales manager for Microsoft’s enterprise server line, described his sibling’s position as “the best of both worlds.”

“On the one hand, he’s got the freedom to do whatever he wants, and on the other, he’s got a really solid five-year plan all mapped out,” Josh said. “He’s got such potential and such liberty, but he also has the wisdom to know that night after night of meaningless sex with women you meet while going out and having fun with your friends is really pretty hollow in the end.”

Anderton said he hopes his quick success at Walsh & Billings doesn’t cause problems with his coworkers.

“I don’t want the other guys at work to envy me because I’ve got my whole life ahead of me,” Anderton said. “I can tell that they’re getting burnt out. They practically have to drag themselves into work after the weekend. But I come in each morning, fresh and ready to start another day. Just imagine where I’ll be by the time I’m their age.”

“Yeah, I’m going to remember these years forever,” Anderton continued. “I get to live in Seattle, I have my own super-sweet computer at work, and, since I don’t have to get to the office until 10 a.m., I could theoretically stay out past midnight.”

So, what does the bible say about hanging out at gay clubs and trying to get gay men drunk to make out with them?

The younger daughter of President George W., is fast developing a reputation as fag hag extraordinaire. Graham C. Boettcher, a fellow Yale student, ran into Barbara at Starlight, a gay lounge in New York’s East Village and has spotted her at a Pansy Division concert at Rudy’s, a divey New Haven watering hole. Pansy Division is an all-gay rock band from San Francisco. He’s even witnessed her arm-in-arm between two known gay male classmates skipping through New Haven like Dorothy, the Scarecrow, and the Tin Man on their way to find the Wizard of Oz.

Which now brings me to my rant about the concept of fag hags. Sure, some of us have that moment when we get out first gay friend, and admire his andorgynous beauty and the ability for him to grab our boobs without being offended (and I still won’t!). But to call someone a fag hag, and worse, to declare one’s self a fag hag, is extremely annoying. Fag hags will immediately cling to a gay man purely for his sexual orientation. Believe me, I will not make nice with am man because he is gay. I guess I have friendly attractions to gay men because of the nonconformity of gender roles, and because they have struggled through something and can speak about the ills of society. Plus, I like to make perverted comments about blow jobs, and they will usually laugh. So, for all those women who are branded as fag hags, let’s remember that these women have served as strong allies and a shoulder to lean on for someone. Hey, can I help it if I am a magnet for gay men? Really, they always seem to find me. I do none of the work.

Matthew Shepard’s family and friends are protesting an ABC television special that suggests the University of Wyoming student’s murder was not an anti-gay hate crime but a meth-induced robbery gone awry.

In Connecticut, the same-sex marriage movement is on the move, scoring resounding victories in this month’s legislative elections. And it seems almost inevitable that Connecticut will pass a landmark law next year. . OK, this makes me reconsider staying in this state for at least another week.

I am intrigued by JT Leroy. Today I just read his first novel, Sarah. Basically about a 12 year old transgendered prostitute who gets caught up in the crazy world of truck stop pimps. At first I thought the provacative plot served as a device to cover up a somewhat lackluster style, but the writing and the characters were surprisingly likeable. Anyway, I’ll give another one of his books a try.

In other literature new, Bret Easton Ellis’ Lunar Park is pretty close. I am squirming just thinking about it:

Picador are excited with Bret Easton Ellis’s first book for six years, Lunar Park, due out next October, “in which Ellis confronts his own legend, and the legacy of his work, with electrifying intensity”. We are promised “humour, terror and pathos” in this tale of “one man’s journey towards a kind of redemption”. Yikes. What for? American Psycho? That tame old thing?

Still speaking of books, some very exciting pics are available from the Goblet of Fire movie. Talk about squirmy! John will enjoy this one. Also, looks like a trek to the World Quidditch Cup.

Of course, ten years too late, I have discovered the Manic Street Preachers.